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Wednesday, July 3, 2024

41 Memoirs Everyone Should Read

In relation to World Book Day, Reader's Digest came up with a list of 41 memoirs they believe everyone should read at least once.

Some of these may not be everyone's cup of tea; it entirely depends on who people want to read about

21. A River Could Be a Tree by Angela Himsel

-The author grew up in one of those unique doomsday cults, where the people believe the world is ending and need to be prepared. She was raised to believe that eye makeup was a sin. She navigated to New York, where she converted to Judaism. She maintained a strong bond with her family. Some of her siblings remained in the cult, along with her parents. This 2018 memoir is filled with love, wisdom and humor

22. Once We Were Sisters by Sheila Kohler

-Sheila Kohler grew up in South Africa, but that was not enough to stop her sister from being in an abusive relationship. Her sister died at 39 in a suspicious car accident, and despite the evidence pointing almost directly at her heart surgeon husband, he walked free. Kohler shines a light on the special bond she had with her sister as she talks about a life cut short before she knew it. This 2017 memoir reminds readers that women are at risk for domestic violence, no matter what part of the world they live in

23. The Liar's Club by Mary Karr

-This 1995 memoir shines a light on the author's life growing up with an alcoholic father and mother in 1960s Texas. She includes dark humor and courage as she talks about her family's dark secrets

24. Beloved Strangers by Maria Chaudhuri

-Written in 2014, this memoir tells the story of Maria Chaudhuri's life growing up in Bangladesh. How she obtained education in New England and her search for the balance between the two cultures she knows. She turns everything she says into the most beautiful poetry while moving her story into the future

25. All Over But the Shoutin' by Rick Bragg

-This 1998 memoir tells the story of Rick Bragg growing up dirt poor in Alabama. His father was a hard drinking, violent man and his mother who didn't buy a new dress for 18 years just so she could have money to buy her kids clothing. He never loses sight of his roots, as he tells what it was like in that world

26. Stuffed: Adventures of a Restaurant Family by Patricia Volk

-Many memoirs seem to focus on the bad times and dysfunction of people. This 2002 memoir focuses on a loving, quirky, restaurant-owning family. Patricia Volk's grandfather introduced pastrami to the US in 1888 while her dad stayed in the restaurant business in New York until 1988

27. The Snow Leopard by Peter Matthiessen

-Peter Matthiessen was a literary legend who died in 2014. He left behind a wealth of work, both fiction and non fiction. His book, The Snow Leopard, released in 1978, is considered legendary. It tells of his journey in 1972 to the deep heart of the Himalayas in search of the mysterious Asian snow leopard. He's also on a journey to search for who he is

28. Still Points North: One Alaskan Childhood, One Grown-Up World, One Long Journey Home by Leigh Newman

-Leigh Newman takes her 2013 memoir and tells readers about growing up in Alaska and includes bits about travel and finding a sense of home. She was on a quest for courage, connection and the deepest adventures to be found

29. Full Body Burden: Growing Up in the Nuclear Shadow of Rocky Flats by Kristen Iversen

-Author Kristen Iversen recounts in her 2013 memoir what it was like to grow up near a top secret nuclear weapons plant in Colorado. She worked there later on and became increasingly worried by all of the risks to safety and health, especially as people started getting sick at a breakneck pace. She uses her memoir to tell about environmental peril and the dark secrets her family kept hidden

30. Warrenpoint by Denis Donoghue

-Denis Donoghue grew up Catholic in a largely Protestant area of Northern Ireland. This 2013 memoir reflects personal adventure, theology and looking back at the past for the relationship between father and son

31. Angela's Ashes by Frank McCourt

-This 1996 memoir recounts the days of when Frank McCourt grew up in poverty in Ireland and suffered a cruel childhood. The author, sadly, died in 2009

32. When I Was Puerto Rican by Esmerelda Santiago

-The author uses her 1993 memoir to tell what it is like to grow up in Puerto Rico and move to Brooklyn, New York. How she would translate Spanish for her mother at the welfare office. How she graduated with honors from Harvard

33. About Alice by Calvin Trillin

-This is certainly the shortest book anyone will read, at 78 pages. It's a love letter to Calvin Trillin's late wife, who died in 2001. It's tender and loving, with good humor thrown in for good measure

34. Bald in the Land of Big Hair by Joni Rodgers

-Joni Rodgers was only 32 and raising two kids with her husband when she got a bad diagnosis-she was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma. While there have been many cancer-based memoirs released since this 2001 memoir, this one is special because Rodgers manages to infuse her stories of cancer treatment with laugh out loud humor. And, as the old saying goes, laughter is the best medicine. Rodgers is alive and well to this day

35. The Faraway Nearby by Rebecca Solnit

-This 2013 memoir starts out with Rebecca Solnit's mother's descent into Alzheimer's Disease. Readers are then taken on a journey that branches off onto various paths, such as fairy tales and myths to a vacation in Iceland and the birth of Frankenstein

36. In Pharaoh's Army: Memories of the Lost War by Tobias Wolff

-Published in 1995, this memoir tells the story of Tobias Wolff and his time in Vietnam during the Tet offensive. The book takes readers back to the time of the Vietnam War, giving readers an insight into the bloodbath that some of those battles became. A look at a war that never should have happened

37. The Boy He Left Behind: A Man's Search for His Lost Father by Mark Matousek

-Author Mark Matousek was 38 when hired a detective to find his long lost father, who abandoned him when he was 4. He remembers the childhood he had, the reconstruction of his parents lives and being an HIV-positive man. This 2000 memoir is different from other dysfunctional family memoirs

38. The Mistress's Daughter by A.M. Holmes

-A.M. Holmes was a well known author in her 30s when she met her birth parents. What she found both surprised and unsettled her. This sent her on a journey deep into her genealogy. This 2007 memoir is not only about adoption, but personal and family identity

39. The Memory Palace by Mira Bartok

-When author Mira Bartok suffers a traumatic brain injury, she joins her sister in trying to reconnect with their mother, who is suffering from severe mental illness. They had not seen her in 17 years. The story of reconciliation makes for a powerful read. Also toss in the discovery of a locker containing things that the mother kept, which can answer many questions. This book, published in 2011, mixes words with graphic novel-like imagery

40. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

-Published in 1969, this book about legendary author Maya Angelou brings her wonderful life into this book

41. Just Jerry: How Drawing Shaped My Life by Jerry Pinkney

-Jerry Pinkney is a children's book author who takes readers on a trip through postwar Philadelphia, where segregation was an everyday thing and drawing and illustration offered an escape from the chaos. With more than 100 books to his name, this book chronicles his life in a series of illustrations. Published on January 17, 2023, the author sadly passed in 2021. The book is filled with original sketches and drawings. Despite this book being written mostly for kids, adults will enjoy it too. It's even inspiration for aspiring artists. And a cool fact is that Jerry Pinkney suffered dyslexia as a child, and the font used in the book is designed for dyslexic readers. So if anyone who has dyslexia reads this book, they'll be able to read it without difficulty

41 Memoirs Everyone Should Read

In relation to World Book Day, Reader's Digest came up with a list of 41 memoirs they believe everyone should read at least once.

Some of these may not be everyone's cup of tea; it entirely depends on who people want to read about

1. Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner

-If you're a fan of the alternative pop group Japanese Breakfast, you'll love the memoir (released in 2021) about Michelle Zauner. She grew up American born, but of Korean ancestry in Oregon, where there were not many other children of Asian descent. She bonded with her family over the meals of her culture in her grandmother's apartment and battled with her mother's expectations to pursue music as a career. After hearing her mother was diagnosed with terminal-stage cancer, Michelle returned home to act as caregiver and come to terms with various things her mother has passed down

2. Spare by Prince Harry, the Duke of Sussex

-Released on Jan. 10, 2023, this memoir is about one of the Dukes of Sussex, Harry. He's also one of the sons of the late Princess Diana Spencer. This is an honest look at the ups, downs and everything in between that shaped him as a person. He talks about his childhood, his military service in Afghanistan, and more recent happenings such as becoming a husband and father. The title is inspired by the phrase "an heir and a spare", referencing his status as King Charles's second son and dealing with the grief of losing his mother at a young age

3. Solito by Javier Zamora

-This story is about a 9 year old named Javier. He grew up in El Salvador, raised by his loving aunt and grandparents. One day, he decides to set out on a journey, 3,000 miles away, to join his parents in America. He is alone, but he joins a group of other migrants who use a "coyote" (professional people smuggler), who promises the group it will only take two weeks. Javier makes the trip successfully, and considers the migrants in his group as extended family. His journey actually took two months, as he recalls thirst from the hot deserts, fear of being caught, love and kindness. He eventually grew up to be a poet

4. I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy

-Despite the suggestive title, it does contain a bit of dark humor. It seems the relationship between Jennette McCurdy and her mother wasn't as rosy as one would think. This memoir, which came out in 2022, details the life of the actress best known for teen-type shows like iCarly and Sam and Cat. She writes with striking honesty about her abusive mother, overbearing mother, whose only request was for her to become a movie star. Also add in eating disorders, addiction and her mother's premature death from cancer, which only added difficulty to the life of Jennette McCurdy. She quit acting to pursue therapy and released this hilarious memoir about trauma, healing and the need to discover your own independence

5. Departure Stories: Betty Crocker Made Matzoh Balls (And Other Lies) by Elisa Bernick

-Elisa Bernick mixes hilarious stories of growing up as a Jewish girl in a white Christian Minnesota suburb in the 1960s and 1970s, trauma from various generations, a family run by an unhappy wife along with recipes, jokes, scrapbook pieces, memories together to paint a picture of a dysfunctional family

6. The Yellow House by Sarah Broom

-In New Orleans, the home in which Sarah Broom was raised was destroyed by Hurricane Katrina. She puts forth personal history and memories, such as being the youngest of 12 children, in her 2019 memoir

7. All the Way to the Tigers by Mary Morris

-Mary Morris took a trip to India and while there, got the chance to see Bengal tigers out in the wild, open and free. In her 2020 memoir, she calls them "the truly last wild things." This book mixes history, natural science, the significance of tigers and philosophy, personal dealings with Morris's past. She also notes how important tiger conservation is

8. Dimestore: A Writer's Life by Lee Smith

-Lee Smith is a Southern writer who took a vacation from writing novels and instead wrote a letter about her Appalachian upbringing. This is an honest, open eyed look into a way of life that no longer happens. This book, published in 2016, will give you a look into the life of the author and the world in which she grew up in

9. Threading My Prayer Rug by Sabeeha Rehman

-The author, Sabeeha Rehman, and her husband immigrated to New York 40+ years ago from Pakistan. They were both placed in an arranged marriage. When they set foot in New York, the culture shock was intense, to say the least. While remaining a devout Muslim, she was able to make friends with her neighbors while maintaining her faith. Not only did she raise a family, but she also advocates for interfaith understanding. This book debuted in 2017

10. Educated by Tara Westover

-Grit and resilience are two words to describe this 2018 book. Tara Westover was raised by survivalists in the mountains of Idaho and the only expectation of her by her parents to eventually become an obedient wife who doesn't question a thing. She fought to get an education. Despite the odds and various setbacks, she was able to make it to Harvard and earn a PhD from Cambridge University

11. When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi

-Paul Kalanithi is a neurosurgeon and a new father. He was only 36 when he got the bad news: he was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. He goes from saving lives one day to losing his own the next day. In this 2015 memoir, he asks the most important question: What makes life worth living? Where do we find meaning? What do you do when your life has no future and ordinary goals no longer make sense? There was no cure for his cancer and he died in 2015. Despite his death, this book remains alive for the world to read

12. Minor Feelings: An Asian American Reckoning by Cathy Park Hong

-This 2020 memoir in essay form is an important lesson about race, in particular Asian Americans. Cathy Park Hong is the daughter of Korean citizens who immigrated to a new land, and Hong explores the topics of family and friendship, shame and self doubt

13. Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest by Cheryl Strayed

-Published in 2013, Cheryl Strayed felt her life was slipping from her at only 26. Her mother died, her marriage dissolved and she was depending on drugs to get her from day to day. With the mindset that she had nothing to lose, she decided to embark on a hike on the perilous Pacific Crest Trail, which is 1,000 miles long. She was completely unprepared for the hike, but it changed her in so many ways

14. On the Move: A Life by Oliver Sacks

-Oliver Sacks was a neurologist who wrote dozens of books. Prior to his 2015 death, he released this book, which gives readers an insight into the years before his death

15. Men We Reaped by Jesmyn Ward

-Jesmyn ward explores institutional racism and poverty in this 2013 memoir. She recounts how five black men died within five years in and around the Mississippi community where they all were raised and living. One of the men was the brother of the author while the others were from the community. This book explores addiction and economic struggles

16. H is for Hawk by Helen Macdonald

-After losing her father, naturalist Helen Macdonald processes her grief by adopting a hawk. Specifically, a goshawk she named Mabel. The wild tendencies of the bird mirror Macdonald's own feelings at the time. She details the goings on of her and her bird in this 2016 memoir

17. Just As I Am by Cicely Tyson

-Cicely Tyson, who passed away in January 2021, had released a memoir only days before. She was able to break racial barriers in a time when roles in acting were not plentiful for black actresses. She took roles that presented black women with realistic dignity. She won an Emmy, Oscar and Tony before her death at 96 and was able to inspire generations of people

18. Lab Girl by Hope Jahren

-If you've ever wondered what it would be like to be a scientist, read this 2016 memoir. Hope Jahren is a paleobiologist who specializes in plants and trees. She gives an insight into the work in the lab and field

19. Boy, Erased: A Memoir of Identity, Faith and Family by Garrard Conley

-The author was only 19 when his parents found out his secret: that he was gay. They pushed him to attend inpatient gay conversion therapy with the hope of making him heterosexual (straight). Released in 2016, this open, honest look shows the journey Garrard made as he came to terms with his sexuality and standing up for his own self. It sheds light on a dark practice that probably still goes on to this day

20. Brain on Fire: My Month of Madness by Susannah Cahalan

-Susannah Calahan was a newspaper journalist who, at age 24, thought she was going insane. She would have uncontrollable outbursts and delusions that could be terrifying at times. Initially, her doctors thought she was abusing alcohol while others believed she was suffering a severe mental breakdown. There was hope when a doctor who took the time to treat her discovered the reason behind her unusual behavior. She was diagnosed with a rare but treatable autoimmune disorder called anti-NMDA receptor encephalitis. With her family by her side and her own perseverance, she was able to not only recover but also put together the pieces of a medical jigsaw puzzle that could have ended differently. This 2012 memoir went on to become a successful movie