Constant Criticism as a Child Leads to These Traits as an Adult

If we are constantly criticized as children, not surprisingly, we won't think too highly of ourselves as adults. This article on MSN.com, by writer Beth Ann Mayer, and the page Parade, is quite frightening only because it's true. Psychology is a fascinating, but also frightening thing. How something that happens to us as children can affect us later down the road in adulthood. Psychology is one of my many interests

The people contributing their experience here include: 

Dr. Erisa M. Preston, a licensed clinical psychologist

Dr. Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, a psychologist and media advisor for the Hope for Depression Research Foundation

Dr. Beth Pausic, a clinical psychologist with Kooth Digital Health

Dr. Gayle MacBride, a psychologist with Veritas Psychology Partners

1. Low self esteem

If you were told things like you didn't deserve love, kindness or nurturing as a child, or you were mocked for little things, then your self-esteem is going to be low. A licensed clinical psychologist named Dr. Erisa M. Preston says "It logically follows that you would believe those things, especially if you are not given other possible choices." She states that signs of low self-esteem include poor eye contact, slumped posture and difficulty advocating for yourself

2. Perfectionism

Failure is not an option. This is a mantra that some parents teach their children. They teach their kids that to fail is bad. To win is good. This puts a lot of pressure on a child to excel at everything, from sports to school to work and more. This will have the child setting impossibly high standards for themselves that may be unattainable. A psychologist named Dr. Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, who also works as a media advisor for the Hope for Depression Research Foundation, says "A child can learn that what they do is never good enough and will try to meet impossibly high expectations and standards as a way to please their caregivers. That is why you may set high expectations for yourself and have a hard time finishing things until they are perfect."

3. Negative self-talk

Everyone has an inner critic. You tell yourself that it's not possible to do this or that. Positive thinking is something that just seems out of reach. Dr. Pausic states "The criticism provided by caregivers can become something that the child (and later as an adult) continues on their own. Often, these adults are harsh self-critics and have difficulty breaking this pattern."

4. Difficulty accepting compliments

Negative talking also allows difficulty at accepting compliments to enter your life. It makes it hard to accept compliments, even from people you love. Dr. Gayle MacBride says "When someone constantly criticizes you, genuine compliments can feel confusing or undeserved."

5. Being hyper-critical of others

Being put down frequently as a child may not affect just the child. Dr. Preston replied that they also look for faults in others or simply assume the worst with people without giving them the benefit of doubt. It's a hard cycle to break, and if you're able to break it, you'll be better off. "You learn as a child that it is normal, expected and acceptable to speak to people in contemptuous and derisive ways. If that is predominantly what you have known, you would believe those are normal and appropriate ways to communicate with others."

6. Hyper-defensive attitudes

Being criticized frequently will make a child feel as though they are under a microscope. Caregivers only see their flaws instead of what they can contribute to society. Dr. Preston says "As a result, you learn to anticipate those criticisms, defend yourself at a moment's notice, and protect yourself in ways you may not have been able to as a child." Struggles with feedback can occur, even when it's designed to help improve your life

7. People-pleasing

Do you feel as though you can't say no to outings even if they don't interest you? Do you have this feeling that you are the last person on your own priority list? If you answered yes to both of these questions, you may be suffering from being a people-pleaser. Dr. MacBride says "A child who was frequently criticized might try to people-please or overly anticipate someone's needs to avoid even the appearance of negativity. They may prioritize others' needs over their own and have difficulty setting boundaries."

8. Self-reliance

Being self-reliant can be a good thing, but it can also be a thing born out of bad circumstances. Dr. MacBride states "But there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. These people become independent and resourceful but also can struggle to trust or connect with others. These individuals have learned 'I'm the only one who will be there for me,' and as such, they operate more like a 'lone wolf.' Remember that it's completely okay to ask for help

9. Social anxiety

Anxiety, especially social anxiety, is common in those who spent most of their childhood being criticized for one thing or another

"If we grow up in an environment where negative and critical feedback is consistent and constant, we may experience a lot of social anxiety because we never know when we're going to be on the receiving end of critical feedback. This anxiety can transform into social anxiety in adult relationships, and we may worry about what others are thinking about us and fear we will upset them." Dr. Lira de la Rosa replies

10. Comparison

Comparison robs us of joy and brings us struggles

"However, children who are consistently criticized will overly rely on comparing themselves to others because they may not have learned to trust their own skills and abilities. As adults, they may constantly compare themselves to other people and beat themselves up for not being like everyone else because they feel inadequate." says Dr. Lira de la Rosa

11. Constant apologies

Saying "I'm sorry" is a powerful thing. Saying it all day indicates something is going on

According to Dr. Lira de la Rosa, "Children may learn to apologize as a way to survive in a highly critical environment. They may continue to engage in this behavior as adults and may apologize for making mistakes or simply being themselves."

12. Trust issues

Trust is the big key to relationships. People who grew up with constant scrutiny and criticism may struggle with this

According to Dr. MacBride, "When a child's primary caregivers are critical, it can be difficult for them to trust others' intentions or motivations. Humans are a deeply social species that crave belonging and connection. Criticism tends to bring shame and severs the feeling of belonging. They may be guarded in their relationships and have difficulty forming close bonds."

13. Difficulty with regulating emotions

Childhood is a time to learn how to deal with and regulate emotions. "You're too sensitive" or "Just relax" may be what you heard on a frequent basis

Dr. Lira de la Rosa mentions "If children do not learn that their emotions are valid and normal, they can have challenges regulating their emotions as adults. Moreover, when children grow up in a highly critical environment, they may experience difficulties regulating what we call 'negative emotions.' They may feel them very intensely and do not know how to self-soothe during these moments."

There are ways to heal yourself from this trauma

1. Validate your feelings

Your caregivers may have made you feel as though your feelings were useless, but do not listen. Your feelings are important

Dr. Lira de la Rosa states "If you are healing from negative childhood experiences, remember that your younger self did the best to survive an invalidating and chaotic environment. As you begin to heal, it is possible that you are learning to honor and feel your emotions. This means that emotions will start slowly, sometimes rather quickly, and reach a really high point, but they will eventually subside. We can learn to ride this emotional wave, and by doing this, we are allowing ourselves to heal and process emotions that we likely did not get a chance to process in childhood."

2. Practice self-compassion

As you come to terms with emotions, practice self-compassion

-Dr. MacBride says "Often, I ask my clients to consider their self-talk. If it's not something they would tolerate hearing from a friend, they shouldn't say it to themselves. It is critical that we speak to ourselves in ways consistent with how we expect others to treat us."

3. Seek professional support

This is not a one person journey. You are completely allowed to seek professional help

-Dr. Pausic says "Depending on the impact of the childhood criticism, it can be highly beneficial to speak with a mental health professional who can provide guidance and assess the impact your childhood has had on your current functioning. They can provide strategies and tools for you to move past negative self-images and improve your confidence." Support groups also are recommended and a good suggestion

4. Put it in the past and leave it there

While this is easier said than done, it's possible to do so

According to Dr. Preston, "However, when you focus your current and future life on past events, you are looking backward instead of forward. Look at what you want for the future. Look at what you want for your current life. Determine what you need to do to get to that picture you have for yourself."

Day 7-What You Hate Most

I hate a lot of things. Here are some...
https://never3nding.tumblr.com/post/2660644142/tumblr-30-day-challenge

Racism
-I've always hated racism. Why do we all have to hate? If people think that racism died out in the 1960s, you're wrong. Racism is still alive and well and getting stronger every day. People want to hate others simply because they are different. Because they practice different religions. Because they love same sex people rather than opposite sex people. Because they speak different languages or are of a different ethnicity or come from a different country. It pains me to know that this still exists. It makes me cry when I hear just how brutal some people can be simply because someone is different. My mother and father may have been racist, but thankfully they raised me and my sister to be very open and tolerant of everyone. I am so thankful of that. If I going to not like someone, it's not going to be based on their skin color or race. It's going to be because they did something to me to make me lose my respect and trust for them.

Bullying
-As a victim of bullying herself, I can say I hate it. Me and my sister hate it. Our own father bullied us growing up, in addition to classmates doing it. We were made fun of for everything and it's no wonder we have trust issues. We don't trust anyone, which is why we are both single. We have self-esteem and self-confidence issues. We both worry about what someone is thinking about us.

Showing off a lot of $$$
-What I mean is when you hear about these musicians, athletes, actors and others with a lot of money buying all this expensive stuff, probably just to show off. If I had even half the money that these people had, I would spend on things that I needed. Like home improvements for the house me, my mom, stepdad and sister live in. I would take my family on a weeklong trip to Tahiti because my mom and stepdad love it there. I would donate some to charity. I would use it for good. It makes me sick to hear about how some of these people are blowing all their money on expensive crap they don't need. It's just like the lottery. These people win millions and billions and they spend, spend, spend and before they know it, they're living on the streets, homeless. It just pains me to think about how some people can spend like there's no tomorrow when I am working a regular job and can only dream of doing things sometimes. I can only dream of travelling the world, but it costs a lot of money and I have to save up a lot. Basic point-it's stupid to spend money like that. It's ridiculous!!

Rob Halford on LGBT rights

"I always thought things would be better". This is what Rob Halford, front man for legendary British speed metal band Judas Priest had to say about the current state of affairs in the LGBT communities.

He always thought things would improve over time, like the old adage "Time heals all wounds". Apparently some wounds still refuse to heal. He thought things about gay rights would improve, but sadly no. He said he is happy with the warmth and kindness he has received from the hard rock community after coming out of the closet in 1998. He was actually worried at first about coming out as gay, thinking he would suffer from some sort of fallout effect

"I just get so frustrated and angry that here we are in 2017. Because of that society I grew up in, and to a still great extent today, we have this tremendous push back in equality. I always kind of felt, as I was going through my teen years, my twenties and my thirties, things would be better – but they’re not. There’s still a long way to go in America and in my home country. And in some parts of the world, people like me get thrown off buildings. People like me get hung, just because of who we are." He told Blabbermouth.

Rob compared struggles of LGBT people to the types of struggles faced by "people of color" and "people having tremendous difficulties with accepting religions". He added "It’s a crazy world. You’d think that by now we’d have just figured things out – live and let live, love each other and just accept each other for who we are. Life is short."

He recalled the moment he came out as gay during an MTV interview. "The thing about gay people is that, until we come out of the closet, we’re always protecting other people – ‘I can’t do this, because it’s gonna hurt so-and-so.’ We’re trying to live the lives of other people, and that’s the worst thing you can do. You’ve gotta learn to love yourself, then you can go out in the world and try and figure everything else out. So I said that thing, and I went back to the hotel and I thought, ‘What have I done? There’s going to be a fallout."

After coming out, he experienced not a fallout, but an outpouring of respect and kindness. His bandmates in Judas Priest had no issue with him being gay. Even bassist Ian Hill was quoted as saying "we always knew he was gay but we treated him like a normal human being because that's the way gay people should be treated."

He mentioned "I’d never seen such an outpouring of love in all my life from everybody in the metal community. Rob, we don’t care. We want you to be who you are.’ That was a tremendously uplifting moment for me. This just goes to show you that we in the metal community – probably because of the push back we felt because of the music we love – we are the most tolerant, the most open-minded, the most loving, the most accepting of all the kinds of music in rock’n’roll. So it was a great moment."

Day 08-A photo that makes you angry/sad

Angry
Bullying
-I hate this because it reminds me of high school. I was the one who had to help the ignorant classmates with their Spanish work or art work. I got treated like absolute garbage simply because I refused to put out like the other girls, because I chose to listen to music different than everyone else or had different interests/likes/passions than everyone else!! And to this day, what blows my mind is that those who treated me bad are now my friends on Facebook. They're all nice to me as I am nice to them. Time really does heal all wounds...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sad

Racism/discrimination

-Around me, there's a civil rights group called Black Lives Matter. They stand up for the rights of black people. But they fail to notice that it's black people committing crimes and giving everyone a bad name, that it's black people leaving their children to die in hot cars or getting them addicted to drugs or beating them to death or claiming that their children have been kidnapped only to be found murdered days later. I've always firmly believed that you should never blame the whole for the actions of a few. It's the few black people and white people that do this that give everyone else a bad rep. I just can't stand the hypocrisy behind this group. They only seem to care about black people. As far as that group is concerned, everyone else can go die without one shred of concern!! What about everyone else? Do other lives not matter? Does it not matter if Jewish people die? Or Italian people? Or Asian people? Black people are not the only ones on the planet!!

-I become sad when I hear about racism/discrimination because I am a lover of all people. We are all the same, just come in different packages

Gene Simmons' daughter Sophie speaks out against body issues

Seems like Sophie has a thing or two to say about fashion. Especially about the idea of "thin being in". The now model and fashion designer and daughter of KISS bass player Gene Simmons is speaking out against body issues.

“I have an idea,” Sophie Tweed-Simmons says when we meet for coffee on the Upper East Side in New York. “How about if I ask strangers on the street if they’d dance with me? I’ve always wanted to do that.”

It’s the first truly cold day in New York this winter. Outside the coffee shop, moms are pushing bundled-up babies, and older couples are strolling even more slowly. Among them, Tweed-Simmons, 22, who’s also an actress and a singer, stands out. She’s wearing what she calls her “pimp coat” — a long, bright floral jacket with a velvet collar that used to belong to her mom, actress and Playboy model Shannon Tweed.

She grabs a doorman. “Would it be OK if I danced with you?” she asks. He looks as psyched as if she’s suggested they run away to Ibiza. He spins her around and dips her before she scurries on, posing in front of a red door, bending over so she can fling her hair in the wind (“There’s always time for a hair flip,” she says.) and holding out her arms like Kate Winslet on the bow of the Titanic to make her pimp coat blow behind her. The whole time she’s smiling.

It makes sense that Tweed-Simmons is a lot of fun. Her dad is known for wearing studded codpieces and platform boots and sticking his tongue out with abandon (He did this long before Miley ever did.). Her mom was 1982’s Playmate of the Year and an erotic-thriller movie star — think KISS’s party anthem “Rock and Roll All Nite” and Cinemax as the building blocks of her childhood. But until recently, Tweed-Simmons wanted nothing to do with stardom. Fashion — in particular, making clothes that fit women who were average sized — is what made her want to use her famous name. “I felt like I really had the chance to give girls confidence with affordable clothing,” she tells Yahoo Style. “If you have a platform, you should use it.”

Being a designer is also a way for her TO work in her own space. “When I’m singing, I’m Gene Simmons’s daughter,” she says. “When I’m acting, I’m Shannon Tweed’s daughter. With fashion, I’m just me. I’m not just ‘daughter of blank.’” “I had avoided being part of the industry for so long,” she says. “I’d say ‘I’m a singer’ and people would be like, ‘Do you sing rock?’ I hated being compared to my family.”

I can’t see many of her “daughter of” counterparts being as honest as she is — Ivanka Trump probably wouldn’t say she hates being compared to her father. Tweed-Simmons says she learned to be so straightforward from her very direct dad (In an infamous interview with NPR’s Terry Gross, Gene Simmons said about his codpiece: “The notion is if you're going to welcome me with open arms, you also have to welcome me with open legs.”). “My dad’s a little crass,” Tweed-Simmons says. “When I was little, I’d think, ‘Can’t you just be nice?’ He taught me that there’s being nice and then there’s lying. It’s better to be blunt and un-liked than shade the truth. I appreciate people who are honest.”

She’s a big-time advocate of body positivity. “I’m not a high-fashion model, and I’m not plus size,” says Tweed-Simmons, who’s 5’8” and fluctuates between sizes 8 to 12. “Which is weird for fashion, but not for life. A lot of designers that I love don’t fit me. I wanted to do cuts that would be flattering to girls who have some shape.” Growing up, she was the same size as her mom (“We shared clothes,” she says.) and had to endure comments about her figure on tabloid covers. “We went on a family vacation, and I was wearing a thong bikini like my favorite celebrity, Sofîa Vergara,” she says, “and someone took my picture. As a 17-year-old girl, I had to see my butt on the cover of The Daily Mail with the headline ‘Gene Simmons plus-size daughter.’ It made the global news circuit. I grew up a chubby kid and into a curvy girl. I was OK with it, but the world wasn’t. I have cellulite, stretch marks, and freckles, and that’s fine with me.”

This Movie Describes Why I Hated High School

She's All That

Summary
-Freddie Prinze Jr. stars as Zack Siler, a popular high school jock who makes a bet with his friends that he can transform the school's nerdiest girl into the next prom queen to beat his self-centered girlfriend Taylor. But problems come up when he begins falling for the newly transformed girl

Cast
-Freddie Prinze Jr: Zack Siler
-Rachel Leigh Cook: Laney Boggs
-Matthew Lillard: Brock Hudson
-Paul Walker: Dean Sampson
-Jodi Lyn O'Keefe: Taylor Vaughan
-Kevan Pollak: Wayne Boggs
-Anna Paquin: Mackenzie Siler
-Kieran Culkin: Simon Boggs
-Elden Henson: Jesse Jackson
-Usher Raymond: Campus D.J.
-Kimberly 'Lil' Kim' Jones: Alex
-Gabrielle Union: Katie
-Dule Hill: Preston
-Tamara Mello: Chandler
-Clea DuVall: Misty

Did You Know?
-Filmed at the same high school as Buffy: The Vampire Slayer
-Rachel Leigh Cook's name in the movie, Laney Boggs, is a combination of the names of two movie characters played by Winona Ryder. Kim Boggs in Edward Scissorhands and Lelaina "Laney" Pierce in Reality Bites

Different Types of Video Game Ratings

The reason I'm doing a post on video game ratings is because I've noticed that there are some politicians out there who are going to try and lay the blame of violence on video games. Come on, be realistic here. Video game violence does not make people killers, maybe it does, I don't know. The way I look at it is this: You just gotta be careful when getting video games, especially if it's going to be played by younger children.

And those games you can play where you use online headsets, those are not so good. When kids get online and start playing with those things, they can start saying some pretty nasty stuff, and that could be considered bullying if it's insulting. But usually, it's just kids swearing because they think it's cool.

Video Games

Ratings go from:
1.)EC (Early Childhood) Young kids are able to play

    

2.)E (Everyone), meaning anyone can play them at any age

    












3.)E10+ (Kids 10 and older can play them legally)
4.)T (Teen) may deal with adult matters that teens may get, not recommended for young audiences. Possible swearing, sexuality, blood/gore, crude humor, suggestive stuff

    

5.)M (Mature) Must be 17+ to play. Definite sexuality, blood/gore, swearing, nudity, language, criminal violence, drug use, alcohol use etc

    





6.)A (Adults Only) Suitable for ages 18 and up. May include but is not limited to graphic violence, graphic sexual content, gambling

    

 

7.) RP (Rating Pending). Usually only seen on promotional stuff for new games

-Descriptors are the items in the rating box on the game that tells what's in it. Here are some common ones:

• Alcohol reference: Obviously this is references to alcohol or images of alcoholic beverages
• Animated Blood: discolored images of what could possibly be blood
• Blood: Obviously going to have real life colored blood, red as cherries
• i.e. Scarface: The World is Yours. You can use an arsenal of guns to rip people apart into bloody shreds
• Cartoon Violence: Usually seen in Early Childhood and Everyone rated games, this can go from characters getting injured cartoon style, such as having anvils dropped on them, blowing up, getting run over by trucks, etc
• Comic Mischief: Suggestive humor or comedic relief
• Crude Humor: "Bathroom" humor, things that might be considered slightly sexual or vulgar
• Drug Reference: References to drugs like Ecstasy, heroin, cocaine, marijuana, crystal meth, etc
• Fantasy Violence: involving human or non-human creatures doing things that are easily not able to be done in real life
• Intense Violence: This is too obvious. In games, intense violence can go from using real life weapons to blow someone's head apart into little bloody bits, to using a chainsaw to remove major limbs, any kind of human decapitation or injury or death with blood accompanying it
• Language: Using bad words, including the "F" word alot
• Lyrics: In video games, sometimes they use real life music as soundtracks. This applies to songs being used that have overall bad lyrics pertaining to something offensive, crimes, drinking, messing around with women, etc
• i.e. Grand Theft Auto series
• Mature humor: Only adults would get stuff like this. This applies to but is not limited to adult humor and sexual references
• Nudity: showing frontal male nudity, female's breasts, female's frontal nude areas, etc
• Partial nudity: showing partial images of nudity
• Real gambling: Using real money to gamble at blackjack, poker, Texas Hold 'Em, slots, etc
• Sexual content: players can get sexual favors from strippers, such as lap dances, or in games with prostitutes, players can get hand jobs and blow jobs
• I.e. The Sopranos: Road to Respect. Player can get lap dances from strippers, and watch topless strippers
• Sexual Themes: referring to sexual acts
• Sexual Violence: Showing someone getting raped or other violent sexual acts
• Simulated Gambling: players can place bets and gamble without using real world money
• Strong Language: Explicit or frequent use of swearing
• i.e. The Sopranos: Road to Respect. In the game, the F word is used A LOT in addition to swearing in Italian
• Strong Lyrics: Music that uses swearing, refers to sex, violence, drug/alcohol use, crimes, etc
• Strong Sexual Content: Frequent showings of people engaged in sexual acts, nudity, etc
• Suggestive Themes: Somewhat provocative stuff
• Tobacco Themes: showing images of tobacco-related items, ads for tobacco companies such as Kool, Marlboro, Doral, etc
• Use of Alcohol: Shows people drinking
• Use of Drugs: Shows someone shooting up heroin or drugs
• Use of Tobacco: Showing someone smoking
• Violence: Showing someone fighting, or getting dismembered by a weapon into a million little bloody pieces
• Violent References: Referring to violence

Bully: Video Game

Hate to use Wikipedia, but it was the only site for this game, other than the main site, Rockstar Games

Bully

 

-PlayStation 2 game
-Action, adventure, open-world exploration game

Gameplay
-Action adventure, open-world exploration game
-Set in a school environment
-You play as James "Jimmy" Hopkins, who is shown as a difficult student with violent background
-The game follows Jimmy as he is sent to a boarding school called Bullworth Academy, somewhere in New England

-The player can explore the campus and the surrounding environments, talk to the students, who are in different cliques, complete favors, missions and side missions
-Some can earn Jimmy money, which can be used to buy clothes, new bikes, etc
-Classes in school are done in the form on mini-games. Such as English class requires the player to spell out words, Shop class requires the player to rotate bike wheels, use a blow torch, gym class involves either wrestling or dodgeball, Chemistry involves Jimmy mixing chemicals to form firecrackers, stink bombs and if all the Chemistry classes are finished, Jimmy can produce more of these items on the chemistry set in his room

-You also have weapons, of a sort. You get a slingshot, stink bombs, and later on, a bottle rocket launcher, spud cannon, bags of marbles, fire crackers, itching powder.
-Each of the five chapters involves Jimmy fighting the leader of the various cliques of the school
-If his health bar gets low, he'll be sent to the nearest medical center
-He can also get busted by the prefects walking around for doing something, such as fighting, hitting girls, hitting the prefects, or hitting adults carries a very severe punishment

-And if he is out and about in the town, if he does the same thing, he will get busted by the police
-He also has an arsenal of different vehicles he can use to get around, such as a skateboard, a motor scooter, go-kart, lawnmower (for money) and bicycles. As you get closer to finishing the shop class, you get more and more advanced, and thus, faster BMX bikes

-You can also buy new clothes, new haircuts and even tattoos!

Cliques

The Bullies
-Every school has at least one or two running around. In the game, the Bullies will be wearing white t-shirts and blue jeans. They will sometimes come after Jimmy and beat him up or give him a noogie

The Preps
-They have their own dormitory at the school, Harrington House. In the game, the Preps are easily identified by their light and dark blue sweaters, tan slacks and nice hair. They also talk very elegant and are obviously made of money.

The Greasers
-These guys hang down by the auto shop. They also can fix anything broken in the school. They are easily identified by their love of leather jackets, which make them look like they're from the 1950s

The Nerds
-Usually found at the library, these reclusive hermits are recognized by their green vests and glasses. They are the brains of the school

The Jocks
-Well, as if this wasn't a surprise. Like every school in America, the Jocks rule the school, and in this game, no different. In this game, The Jocks rule the school. They are football players and a rule of thumb, when going down to the football field, watch out for Damon, a towering black football player who will bulldoze you down to the ground. Anywho, the Jocks rule the school and the school centers on sports instead of academics. The Jocks are easily identified by their blue and cream colored letterman jackets


^Damon is this guy

The Townies
-The kind townspeople of Bullworth. They are the police, men, women, you name it. They will start asking you to do favors for them in exchange for money. They pay for you to do favors for them. and also, you can deliver newspapers and mow lawns for money.

Did You Know?
-Throughout the game there are 5 chapters
Ch. 1: Making New Friends and Enemies
-He arrives at school and immediately runs afoul of the bullies.
Ch. 2: Rich Kid Blues
-With him now being more popular, he must deal with the spoiled, bratty Preppy students
Ch. 3: Love Makes the World Go Around
-Christmas is nearing, and he gets mixed up with the love affairs of Johnny Vincent, the leader of the Greasers and his very promiscuous girlfriend Lola
Ch. 4: A Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body and Other Lies
-After gaining control of the Preps and Greasers, he decides to take on the toughest clique of all: the Jocks, who rule the school, but in order to do it, he needs to gain the respect of the Nerds and have them help him
Ch. 5: The Fall and Rise of Jimmy Hopkins, Aged 15
-Jimmy is now enjoying his newfound respect as King of Bullworth Academy. He is then expelled. He has to clear his name and get re-enrolled in the school and confront Gary.
Ch. 6: Endless Summer
-This is where you can complete anything you may have missed the first time around, missed races, missed classes, etc
-The school's neo-Gothic appearance would have the player suddenly reminded of public schools and colleges in the UK
-There was some controversy when it came out, due to the sexuality and bisexual content and ability to pinch girls bottoms and also kiss them. In the game, Jimmy can kiss both boys and girls

Characters
-The main focus is on the new student, Jimmy Hopkins. He can interact with the various students and staff members of the school, as well as townspeople who give him errands to run and earn money from it
-There are other characters in the game too. He is greeted by Gary Smith, a scheming sociopathic student, Pete Kowalski, a shy student who has not made any friends.
-Throughout the game, Jimmy has the chance to make friends with all the cliques in the school: the Jocks, the Nerds, the Preps, the Greasers, The Bullies and the Townies. Each "clique" has a single female member.

Jimmy Hopkins
-A 15 year old troublemaker is the main character in the game. He has been expelled from virtually every school he attended. His mother is on marriage #6 and is on a year long honeymoon cruise.

Gary Smith
-The main enemy of the game. Other characters in the game describe him as a sociopath. He even says that he suffers from ADHD. He thinks he is smarter than everyone else, and also better.

Pete Kowalski
-Usually called "Petey", he is the shyest student at the school and has yet to make any friends. He is the closest thing to a friend that Jimmy has.

Dr. Crabblesnitch
-He is the pompous, ignorant principal at the school. He considers the bullying at Bullworth Academy as "school spirit" and refuses to believe any lies about his staff, such as the art teacher hitting on male students. He even expelled Zoe Taylor for complaining about the gym teacher, Mr. Burton, hitting on her.

Russell Northrop
-He is the leader of the Bullies. He is not the brightest bulb on the Christmas tree, but he certainly is the toughest student at Bullworth. Even the prefects fear his monstrous strength. Early in the game, Gary makes Jimmy fight him. After he beats him, Russell and Jimmy become allies, even helping out in certain missions

Zoe Taylor
-She is a townie girl who once went to the school. But she was expelled after she complained to the principal that the gym teacher, Mr. Burton, was hitting on her and making inappropriate advances towards her. After defeating Gary, she is re-enrolled at thte school

Cliques

Social Stigma

Remember high school? The many "cliques" Like jocks, popular kids, rich kids, bullies, etc? Well, this post was inspired by a recent post I did on the movie Revenge of the Nerds, one of my favorite movies might I add.
This word is basically also to do with the term social stigma, meaning that is it the severe disapproval of, or discontent with a person on the grounds of features that make them different from someone else.
There are 3 forms of it, recognized by Erving Goffman. The fact of mental illness, a physical form of deformity or association with a certain race, belief, religion, etc.

Social stigma can come up from attribute or perception of, right or wrong, mental illness, physical incapabilities, diseases such as leprosy, illegitimacy, sexual orientation, gender, skin tone, nationality, ethnicity, religion, or criminality.

Comes in 3 forms:

1. External deformations, such as scars, physical symptoms of anorexia nervosa, or physical disability such as obesity. (I.e. muscular dystrophy, clubfoot, cleft lip or palate.)
2. Personal traits, such as mental illness, drug addiction, alcoholism, criminal background. (I.e. homosexuality, imprisonment, suicidal attempts, mental disorders)
3. Tribal stigmas, such as ethnic group, nationality, religion. (I.e being African American or of Arab descent living in the US after 9/11)

-This can also be noted as labeling. There are 3 factors to this: The first being the need to create groups, such as heterosexual and homosexual, black and white, sane and mentally ill, young and old.

-The 2nd factor is this can be linked to stereotypes. 3rd, linking negative attributes to groups makes us go into thinking about "us" and "them."
-4th factor is discrimination. Many disadvantages here, and people in groups can basically be labeled, by factors such as income, education, housing status, medical treatment, health, mental health

High School
In high school, cliques are everywhere! Every high school probably has the same ones:
-The Jocks, who think they rule the school, even though most of them are dumber than a post and couldn't pass a class to save their lives.

-The Cheerleaders. Girlfriends of the football players, some of whom might be the sluttiest girls you ever meet, that's not to say all cheerleaders are like that, in my school, only a small handful of the cheerleaders were like this, the rest were nice. Unlike some people, I do not consider cheerleading a sport. All it is id jumping on top of each other, no dancing or anything like that involved.

-The "Band Geeks". This refers to the nice group of people who play instruments and know all about music. Most of them tend to stick with other music band people. I actually made friends with these people easier than anyone.

-The nerds, or smart people. I was in this one, lmao. I was a smarty pants and had to help people in classes, especially Spanish. I translated for everyone so they could ace the class. Nerds in my high school did not dress like that, but they dressed in just regular clothes. They were called nerds because they were smart and did not talk.

-Tomboys. We had a few running around. Girls who dressed and acted like the boys, played rough and tumbled with the boys. Or just girls who went casual with their clothes, aka ME!

-'Gangsta' wannabes. Almost every guy here! They all wanted to be "black" like the hip hop stars they idolized when in real life they were whiter than Texas and didn't have a snowball's chance in Hell of being black. Hell, half of the black people I know don't say things  like "Yo, what up, dog? How's my homie?"

-Preps. Millions of them, they were everywhere! Like a really bad infestation of them! These are the people who wear name brands all over themselves, showing off they can afford brand names like Abercrombie and Fitch, Aeropostale, American Eagle, etc.

Some of the preppy girls dressed like this

-What I call the "Rock Band" people. Ones who wore skin tight jeans, hair all messy and long or Mohawks, rock band shirts and Vans or Converses. They are the ones who want to be rock stars and they are not shy about showing it through their clothes. They also may have a tattoo or two and have brightly colored hair!

They would look like this, even the girls, sans the ripped clothing or leather clothing
BTW, this is Motley Crue in case anyone is curious

-And also, a sub one my school had. The "Retro" people who wore bell bottoms, retro rock band shirts or retro shirts in general, gym shoes, stuff with peace signs on it, stuff with retro rock bands on it and who would know about all things before the 1990s, such as music, movies, TV, etc. I'm part of this one too, lmao!!!

Carrie(1976)

One of my favorite horror movies!

Carrie

-1976 American supernatural horror movie directed by Brian De Palma.
-Based on the novel by Stephen King.
-The movie tells the story of Carrie White, a bullied, social outcast who discovers she has telekinetic powers which arise when she becomes angry or distressed. Her powers become seen by her classmates, teachers and abusively religious mother, which ends in death
-The movie stars Sissy Spacek as Carrie, Piper Laurie as her mother Margaret, Betty Buckley, Amy Irving, Nancy Allen as Chris Hargensen, William Katt, John Travolta, P.J. Soles and Priscilla Pointer.
-Was one of the most watched films during Halloween

Did You Know?
-The blood Sissy Spacek had dumped on her was only corn syrup and food coloring, even though she was fine with real blood being dumped on her
-Sue Snell and her mother are played by real life mother and daughter Amy Irving and Priscilla Pointer
-The fake blood on Sissy Spacek kept drying and adhering to her skin because of the hot lights, so they had to keep hosing her down to keep it from getting gluey
-Many of the girls were hesitant to appear nude in the movie, but when Brian De Palma showed them nude shots Sissy Spacek did, they became more confident
-In real life, Sissy Spacek was named homecoming queen at Quitman High School

Plot
-Carrie White(Sissy Spacek) is a friendless, severely shy teen girl abused by her fanatically Christian fundamentalist mother Margaret(Piper Laurie). The girls at Bates High School also harass Carrie, with Chris Hargensen(Nancy Allen), being the leader and the cruelest

-Carrie gets her first period in the shower after gym class and because she is innocent to the concept of the menstrual cycle, she gets hysterical, thinking she is bleeding to death. Popular girl Sue Snell notices Carrie's horror, leading to all the girls pelting Carrie with tampons and sanitary pads at her before Miss Collins comes in. As Carrie gets more distressed, a light bulb above her bursts. Miss Collins brings Carrie to Principal Morton's office, where he constantly gets Carrie's name wrong by calling her Cassie or Wright instead of White. When she finally has to correct him, the ashtray on his desk flies off. When Carrie is walking home, a neighborhood boy crashes his bike after taunting her

-Her mother Margaret is walking from door to door spreading the word of God, when she gets a call from Miss Collins about the locker room incident and tells Carrie about the "curse of blood" is punishment for sin. She locks Carrie in a closet and forces her to pray. In her room that night, a disheveled Carrie stares at her mirror until it explodes

-The next day, English teacher Mr. Fromm reads a poem to the class, written by Tommy Ross, Sue's boyfriend. Fromm invites the class to comment on it but mocks Carrie when she says it's beautiful. Sue then convinces Tommy to take Carrie to the prom

-Suspecting she is telekinetic, Carrie is in the library one day looking at a book about telekinesis. Tommy confronts her in the library and asks her to the prom, with her fleeing, fearing another trick. After a talk from Miss Collins, Carrie accepts Tommy's invitation when he approaches her at home. When Carrie tells her mother she is going to the prom, her mother declares the prom an occasion of sin, refusing to let her go. However, Carrie causes the windows to break, revealing her telekinesis. Margaret is now convinced that this is Satan's power and hesitantly lets her go.

-Miss Collins berates all the girls responsible for harassing Carrie and subjects them to a week long boot-camp style detention until she can run them ragged. They are threatened with suspension and refusal of prom tickets. All the girls show remorse except Chris, who throws a fit with Miss Collins smacking her in the face and banning her from the prom. Chris tells her jailbird boyfriend Billy Nolan that she wants to get payback on Carrie and Miss Collins. They all go to a local farm to kill a pig. There Billy drains some of the blood into a bucket, which Chris has planned to put above the stage above the king and queen throne

-Chris makes a deal with her friend Norma Watson and Billy's friend Freddy to rig the election of prom king and queen so Tommy and Carrie win. As Carrie gets ready for the prom, her mother tells her that everyone will laugh at her. Carrie angrily tells her that she is going. Though she is at the prom, the people treat her as an actual human being only temporarily. Sue, who was unable to attend due to no date, sneaks in to see to it that everything is going okay for Carrie

-Carrie is shocked when her and Tommy are elected as the king and queen. As they approach the stage, Sue sees Chris hiding behind the stage holding the rope attached to a bucket filled with blood above the stage. Miss Collins sees Sue there, thinking she is there for problems and forces her out. As the crown is placed on Carrie's head, Chris pulls the rope and the blood is dumped on Carrie. As the crowd is shocked, Tommy is knocked out and Carrie sees the whole room laughing at her, when it's only implied that a few of Chris's friends are doing so in reality while everyone else is horrified. Carrie's telekinesis takes over, closing the gym doors and turning on a fire hose. Norma is knocked out by the fire hose along the floor, and Carrie kills Miss Collins with a falling rafter. Principal Morton and Mr. Fromm are electrocuted, which causes a fire in the gym. Leaving her classmates inside as it burns, Carrie walks home, covered in blood. Chris and Billy, who got out of the gym, catch up with her, intending to run  her over, but Carrie uses her powers to flip the car over and explode, killing Chris and Billy

-At home, Carrie breaks down in her mother's arms after taking a bath to remove all the blood. Under the impression the Devil has taken over Carrie, Margaret brings the girl to her knees and stabs Carrie in the back. She falls down the stairs and is cornered in the kitchen by her mom, but sends kitchen knives flying at her mother, killing her with a stigmata pose all too reminiscent of Christ on the cross. Using her powers, Carrie causes the house to collapse upon her and her mother.

-Later on, Sue, being the only survivor of the prom, dreams of visiting the plot where the White bungalow stood and as she places flowers down on the ground, she sees a sign that says "CARRIE WHITE BURNS IN HELL!" Then a bloody hand reaches out, grabbing Sue's wrist. This wakes her up, screaming in her mother's arms.

Cast

• Sissy Spacek as Carrie White
• Amy Irving as Sue Snell
• Piper Laurie as Margaret White
• Betty Buckley as Miss Collins
• William Katt as Tommy Ross
• Nancy Allen as Chris Hargensen
• John Travolta as Billy Nolan
• P. J. Soles as Norma Watson
• Priscilla Pointer as Mrs. Snell
• Sydney Lassick as Mr. Fromm
• Stefan Gierasch as Mr. Morton
• Michael Talbott as Freddy
• Doug Cox as The Beak
• Harry Gold as George Dawson
• Edie McClurg as Helen Shyres